beyondwandpoint

I think there is often an unhealthy relationship to pain. (One of the tests done on me that went wrong three years ago caused long term nerve damage in both arms. It hurt like hell, but I didn't get help for that aspect, because I had a bunch of other things on my plate I really needed to sort, and it was 'just pain'. It took me a year, and a couple of other things exacerbating the situation before I finally 'surrendered' and went to the neurologist. (It's still not even close to good, but it's better. And maybe if I had gotten on it sooner, I'd have made more progress by now.) I don't think that's an unusual response, either.) I think even Muggles have a way of not respecting pain. Now if you were magical and could make the symptoms disappear soon after, just patch everything up... Would you pay pain much mind at all? That doesn't mean it doesn't hurt, or that it doesn't tax a person, or make them fearful, or chip away at them in a real way. And of course if your society has no respect for pain, what does that mean for empathy?

Comparisons are just decimating. It often keeps people from speaking up and getting the support they could use, and it sometimes keeps others from being as empathetic as they should be. You shouldn't have to be the worst off to need and deserve a hug, say.